This week I offer a commentary that is a little more personal as this past month has been one for the memory books. On July 24th, my oldest son got married, and our family spent three incredible weeks celebrating, laughing, reminiscing, and soaking in the joy of such a milestone event. For me, the moments were even more endearing due to the fact that, because of my son’s profession, he lives in the country of Oman. The geographic distance simply means our face to face visits are limited at best. It is for this reason, his wedding had a way of making time stand still, or at least slow down a little. The laughter around the dinner table, the conversations that stretch late into the evening, was special. Those are the moments that linger in the heart.
I’ll admit, I’ve found myself drifting into a bit of a dream state since then. My mind trails off to images of my son and his new bride stepping into their future together. I think about the way he smiled when he saw her walk down the aisle, the joy in their voices as they exchanged vows, and the love that filled the room as two families became one. These thoughts come back often, and they are good ones. They are blessings in themselves. But life doesn’t pause for too long. As quickly as July passed in celebration, August has arrived with its own shift in rhythm. This week, all three of my children started school, and suddenly, our household feels different. Backpacks, pencils, early alarms, practices, and packed snacks remind me that life continues to move forward. As a parent, you feel that tug. The pride of watching your kids grow paired with the ache of realizing just how quickly the years seem to go.
And that’s where I introduce a song. Jason Mraz’s song “Have It All” comes to mind. Every time I hear it, I can’t help but smile. It’s a song that feels like a letter to the next generation. It’s a blessing wrapped in melody, a wish that those you love might carry joy, kindness, and resilience into every corner of their lives. The chorus repeats the hopeful phrase: “I want you to have it all.” Not in the sense of material possessions or worldly success, but in the deeper sense. The kind of “all” that makes life meaningful. The kindness of strangers. The courage to face setbacks. The love of family and friends. The wisdom to know when to keep going and when to pause. The idea that as a father, I want my children to enter a room ‘as an esteemed guest’.
As my children step into this new school year, that’s exactly what I want for them. I want them to “have it all”. I want them to be curious, to work hard, to be kind even when it’s not easy, and to recognize the beauty in both big moments, like a wedding day, and small moments, like laughing in the cafeteria with friends. And for my son and his new bride, I find myself wishing them the same. Marriage, like education, is a lifelong journey. It comes with lessons, challenges, and moments of triumph. The truth is, we all need a little more of the spirit behind “Have It All.” Whether we’re sending kids off to school, watching a child walk down the aisle, or simply navigating the day-to-day routine, those words remind us to live generously, to offer encouragement freely, and to never underestimate the power of kindness.
So as I adjust to the new season in my family’s life, I’m carrying that message with me. I hope my kids carry it too. I wish it for all that I come in contact with on a daily basis. May you always know the richness of community, the strength of compassion, and the joy that comes when we wish the very best for those around us. If you haven’t heard Jason Mraz’s song, give it a listen.
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